Comments on: Remembering My Mother

By: Mahinda de Lanerolle (Uncle Mahinda)

Mahinda de Lanerolle (Uncle Mahinda) — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 18:13:57 +0000

Duwa, many thanks.

I was deeply touched by your comments about mother. They say , “Men don’t cry !” But, I have cried so many times, for so many reasons - some times it was due to self pity and this time it was owing to the candid expressions of a daughter about her mother.

Even though we come from the same family circle, its a pity that I never had the opportunity to be introduced to your mother ; I have been away from S.L. for 40 years and that prevented me from attending many family events. I am glad that I am now closer to your family, your father and the other extended family. By the way Duwa, father gave me a copy of mother’s poems that was published posthumously.

Affectionate best wishes to you and yours,

Uncle Mahinda.

By: Pramanas Senewiratne

Pramanas Senewiratne — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 23:24:01 +0000

What could I say Ru? Wonderfull article …. but bearing in mind not the greatest of articles could & would fill her void.
She was one of my greatest teachers at Royal … a champion of many causes …. Teachers who had the inner strength, desire and the courage to strive in making us boys men!
May the good Lord bless her soul and you guys be born as one family … one day!
Take care.

By: sujann Philip

sujann Philip — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 03:19:54 +0000

So amazing. I will most certainly get my mother to read this with me, when she visits me later this year.

By: kosiya gunawardane

kosiya gunawardane — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:25:46 +0000

hi,

absolutely enjoyed reading it. I can add so much to this … but dont want to steal your thunder ! never knew you are this amazing writer … person.! So much I could say about you , in the college days ! nothing bad all inspirational ! same about Indrani nanda !
tc

Kosiya

By: Padma Viswanathan

Padma Viswanathan — Wed, 19 May 2010 15:41:34 +0000

So touching, Ru. I love the complexities here, which I’m sure you continue to wrestle with. An elegant tribute.

By: Preeta

Preeta — Mon, 10 May 2010 16:12:59 +0000

Thanks, Ru. What a beautiful tribute to your mother! My mother, too, thought I should wear my hair short, and not only threatened to cut it because it was the source of all my problems, but actually did so one day in a fit of rage. She cut off half my ponytail, and then I had to get on the school bus with the other half intact. But what I really want to say is: our relationships with those we truly, deeply, fiercely love are never simple. I think our mothers understand this.

By: Mevan Randeniya

Mevan Randeniya — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 23:23:52 +0000

Ruvani, What a great tribute to your mom, our beloved teacher at Royal. Just like Ranjan Madugalle said, there is something of her in every speech we make, Every letter we write and everytime we help our kids do their grammer homework. Love to your family, Malinda, Arjuna and your father.

By: Madhushree Ghosh

Madhushree Ghosh — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 18:19:10 +0000

Dear Ru:
I’ve been a very quiet follower of your blog and your wonderful writing but this piece made me want to reach out to you. After my mother passed away the spring of 2008, three and a half years after my father, the first feelings I’ve had besides grief, shock and more shock, have been of envy, whenever anyone talked about their parents. After all, why should I have to listen to how much fun you’re having with them? I don’t want to know someone’s mom’s pickle recipe? Or the fact that they’ll visit you every six months. Or that they’re so irritating or annoying. The fact is, they’re still here, warts and all.
Having no parents or losing a parent, puts you in a club you really don’t want to belong to, and one does retreat into a world of what-ifs and am-i-better-off as well as i-shouldn’t-be-missing-her-so-much. Your words describe these feelings wonderfully and I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing, because it’s a difficult time, and the more you explore this experience, the more you discover yourself. My thoughts are with you and thank you again.
Madhushree

By: Lety

Lety — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 23:59:10 +0000

Dear Ru,

No better justice to your loss than this moving and complex remembering of your mother. With you I share its conflict, and having my mother still with me, can hope to try to understand her better… Thanks for sharing.

By: Ruveena

Ruveena — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 01:58:40 +0000

Dear Ruvani,
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious mother. What a beautiful piece! Your writing has left me in tears. It brings back such a lot of memories of the stories you used to relate to us about your mum and the antics of her many students at Royal. I feel like racing across the ocean to give my mum a big hug and tell her how much she means to me.
Take Care and God Bless!
Ruveena